I have been told by my husband and my friend, Reality that I really need to update.
But really I feel so at a loss with this blog lately. You see, the only thing currently going on in my life is this baby. With only 4 weeks to go, I am working very little (soon to be not at all), and I do not have the energy or comfort level to do a lot else. I can't even weed my garden and I LOVE gardening. But seriously, I can't kneel because my knees are too lose, I can't bend over because physically that is impossible right now with this big, hard, round belly in the way. And the whole sitting on my butt idea sounded good but is not comfortable either.
I am just about to finish my 35th week. Life has gotten more uncomfortable this week with significantly more headaches (almost constant since Monday although the intensity rises and falls) and now with feet swelling if I stay on my feet for too long, stay up late, or sit upright without my feet up. I am not complaining. frankly I am still enjoying being pregnant, but it is more restrictive these days.
I hope they always stay this close!
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Oh good God I pity you. I can't stand my inlaws and they were just here for the weekend. I wouldn't let them anywhere near me at the end of my pregnancy and for the first 6 weeks after Madelyn was born. MIL offered to come stay for a month but I wasn't having it. lol. There wasn't a way you could have said no?
Just reading your post made me stress!
Your mom sound so much like mine. She would totally clean a dirty bathroom! Your in-laws sound like a pain. I don't think you should do anything for them when they come. You don't need to be on your feet all day cooking and entertaining them. They are going to need to grow up while they are there or your hubby is going to have to field the entertainment. Gah! Good luck.
OMG. That is awful! There's NO WAY I could face having ANYONE stay for a month at that point let alone, my InLaws! You poor thing ~ I feel for you. :(
I've just run into your blog for the first time - seems like a good time :-)
Poor you. At least you like your in laws. Maybe they'll be more helpful when they see how difficult things are for you... I truly understand your frustration...
Glad your mom will be there for you. First line of defense. Dude... hope it all works out for the best.
And hey, good luck with everything birth-wise!
Oh my lord...tell your husband that this is the moment...stepping up to the plate time, literally. I would just have him phone them now and tell them they have to help and contribute when they arrive and if they don't like it, they can stay in a hotel.
I know this sounds bossy, but the worst time on earth for visitors like this (even the nice helpful ones) is right around the time a baby is born. You may be tired or hormonal or trying to breastfeed in the living room, and frankly it's your space. I'm so sorry this has happened, what a nightmare.
I am sure you can tell from my fabulous garden that I really suck at gardening, but I CAN pull weeds. I can come weed if you want, just let me know.
But, since I don't do in-laws, it would have to be this week! :)
I agree with Aurelia ... this is a wonderful time for your hubby to put his foot down ...I would definitely put a 2 week restriction on them ... soooo inconsiderate to just book the tickets after you've already made plans with your parents.
As a side note ... my BIL & SIL planned to visit 2 days after I got home from the hospital and I was sooooo resistent to the idea ... I didn't want any witnesses for who I might turn into when sleeplessness and hormones kicked in, but to my surprise they were unintrusive and actually wonderful assistants to my hubby and me. I pray you have the same experience.
Now that thier ticket is booked I will not suggest that Rick try to restrict their stay, it will only cause hurt feelings. I am not going to entertain them. For the first time ever, they will either entertain themselves (and me) or they will be bored.
I do like my in-law's, in fact I love them. I just think the timing sucks. I have insisted that Rick take 2 weeks off when the baby is born (he was going to take 1 and then 1 later) because he will have to be in charge of ensuring everything goes smoothly with them. I won't have the time or energy.
My Reality, Rick weeded my garden today. It took him many hours. But you could come have a fruity drink with me in my lovely weed free yard now! And no, I do not mean alcoholic drink for anyone who would start to lecture me!
That's tough! My MIL is also incredibly selfish and would be happy to dirty a bathroom but never lift a finger to clean it - or clean anything. Or put anything away. Neither would my mother for that matter.
I don't envy you. I only hope that the presence of all those people means that you can get some sleep after the baby is born!! Maybe your mother can play interference for you?
personally, I'd tell them that it's not convenient for them to come then, and you'd love to see them in august. BUt it sounds like that's not an option.
SO i support the staying in a hotel thing, and certainly that rick needs to be the entertainment (as well as to look after you!).
hang in there. You sound uncomfortable but happy. NOt a bad combination.
WOW... that is going to be a full house. Good luck! I can't believe your in-laws are doing that. That is so wrong. Man! Really good luck.
Keep us updated.. I can't wait to see baby pics!
I...I...Oh my God. A month!? Just because the freakin' White Sox are in town (and won't win the division anyway?). Happy to hear that hubby is aware of his role in this, but I would still suggest that a hotel, especially when you get home, would be a gift. It's just asking waaaaay too much. To be honest, I couldn't stand my own parents after we got home. I'll be thinking of you (and continue to be happy that my MIL is 500 miles away...and won't fly anywhere.)
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